Not every person we meet is meant for us. We’re all unique and irreplaceable, complex beings on an unprecedented spiritual journey, filled with emotions, beliefs, needs, and desires.
When we meet someone new, especially someone with whom we share a romantic relationship, subconsciously hope and believe that they’re in the same place in life as we ourselves are. Sadly, this is seldom the case.
The same disparity also occurs with people we have a long-term relationship with. We’re constantly changing and growing, but at times we’re unable to adapt accordingly with our partner’s evolution. Sometimes we impose unrealistic ultimatums and expectations on these people, which they’re unable to fulfill, leaving us feeling rejected and unwanted. You start to wonder if a connection ever happened in the first place.
But sometimes the truth is that we’re just not good for each other at the moment. It’s no one’s fault if you disagree on some points, but there are hidden reasons behind why you’re not functioning right and the connection is just not flowing. So unless you want to torture yourself with a forced relationship, the only solution is to gather up the courage and let go.
In order to achieve inner peace and harmony, it’s important to discover how to lose control sometimes and let yourself be carried by what is meant to be, without pressure to make it a thing based on your own needs, wishes and desires.
We sometimes think we’re stronger for holding on to pieces of the relationship, and that if we put in enough effort and time, the other person will miraculously open their eyes and adopt your way of thinking and feeling. This flood of emotional energy however, often has the opposite effect, and instead of feeding the relationship, it suffocates it and destroys all remaining positive emotions.
Perhaps the bravest thing we can do is to resist temptation to keep trying, and instead slowly let go of all our attachment to this person.
The term “let go” often gets confused with cutting someone out from our life, but it’s not the case. Letting someone go can sometimes be the most loving, compassionate and considerate thing we can do for ourselves and for the other person.
A powerful thing happens when we loosen our grip and disregard the need to control and force the relationship to places it’s not meant to go.
Our fear of losing someone is replaced with a firm confidence in ourselves and the person we’re letting go. We send out a strong spiritual signal to the universe by accepting what isn’t in our power to change, and believing in our abilities to deal with all of it. As we open up this channel, new energy rushes in, and brings new possibilities and opportunities. All our energy that was wasted on holding on to things from the past, is now invested in a new beginning.
In a way, letting go is like using the ancient art of Feng Shui, to chase out negative energy ,so that the positive can stay in. The other person is free, without our restrictions, eliminating the pain, anger and frustration that keep bursting out when we stubbornly cling to things that aren’t meant to be.
We can become attached to low vibration emotions, because they feel familiar, especially if we’ve been feeling them for some time. So, it’s essential we’re easy on ourselves when we transition from holding on to letting go, so that we give our emotions the opportunity to regenerate. It can be terrifying because something that good or intense may not happen again, but holding on to someone who doesn’t want to be held only causes suffering and keeps us spinning in a cycle where situations can make us feel inadequate and inappropriate.
It’s easier said than done, but surrendering to the present and parting with your past is liberating, empowering and exhilarating. It brings fresh energy and revitalizes stagnant relationships, by giving the other the space to grow and expand. It shows us the great beauty of living in the moment and not being forced into it by the uncertainty of the future, or the regrets of our past.
“Some birds are not meant to be caged, that’s all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.” ~ Stephen King