If you’re reading this post, you’re either trying to better understand someone you love, or you relate directly to these habits. Depression is something that often remains unnoticed for years. Someone with concealed depression is a person fighting his inner demons without you even knowing. They might be diagnosed or undiagnosed, sharing their struggles or keeping them hidden. The problem arises when we stop trying to understand each other. We think everyone carries their heart on their sleeve, but wounds are not something a person openly reveals to people not willing to take a closer look.
1.They constantly make efforts to appear fine, and maybe even seem exponentially happy and upbeat.
The notion that people suffering from depression all possess a negative personality is false. Depression is not just a mood, it’s a mental imbalance. People often learn to feign moods, so as to appear happy and normal. But personalities are all different, and those with depression often try hard to emanate positivity, regardless of what they’re suffering on the inside. The feeling that they’re bringing others down, makes matters even worse, so depressed people often simply hide their true feelings.
2. They may have habitual remedies.
Depression is treated in various ways, including therapy and medication. But, in addition to this, there are certain lifestyle changes and habits that people with depression learn to ease their everyday state-of-mind. Things like exercising, listening to music, walking, driving, anything that can distract them from being concentrated on their emotions. Hidden depression has a lot to do with the things people do to personally overcome their demons.
3. They may have trouble with abandonment.
If you’ve gone through it, you know the struggle, and you also know what a burden it is for the people around you. Sometimes when you let someone get close enough to sense your struggle, they walk away. It’s not exactly right to blame them, but it induces a feeling of abandonment. It causes people with depression to be more and more secretive about their feelings, for fear of being abandoned by other loved ones. It’s very painful to realize that your darkest side is too ugly for others to be accepted.
4. They can be pros at “cover-up” stories.
The stories are elaborate, from excuses about the cuts on their arms, to reasons for skipping appointments. People going through different forms of depression, experience different hardships, and it disturbs the normalcy of everyday life. In these moments of low esteem, they’re very good at changing the subject and turning attention away from their displays of pain. They’re also often unwilling to admit they’re hitting rock bottom, so they know how to hide it all.
5. They may have abnormal sleeping and eating habits.
It may seem insignificant, but the consequences are dire. People living with depression often display only little signs. Sleeping too much or too little is the most commonly known symptom of depression. It’s the same with food, and food and sleep are essential for your body’s health. They’re also thing that your mind controls. Depression causes you to be in a state of helplessness, and experiencing a bit of control is sometimes all a person can do. Sleep may be impossible, or it may be the only escape. The same goes for food.
6. They may interpret substances differently.
A person battling depression, probably knows exactly what they’re taking to ease their pain. Alcohol is a depressant, and prolonged periods of drinking can cause such a low mental state, that it makes them unable to handle normal situations. They know caffeine and sugar raise the mood, and so does medicine, and they also know what doesn’t mix well. And they know all this because they try to alter their state of mind purposefully, and it requires a much greater effort than it does for other people.
7.They may exhibit a very involved perception of life and death
Not all depressed people experience suicidal urges. However, being depressed means being in such a state of mind, that your thought process completely changes. They often face mortality in moments of despair, when seeking answers to life’s most burning questions. Shifting from one horrible mindset to another can cause such thoughts to occur more frequently.
8. They are often uniquely talented and expressive.
Many of history’s greats have suffered from mental illnesses. However, this suffering gives them a depth of emotions that causes their profound greatness. Although it might not be obvious, depressed people express themselves in incredible and unique ways. They’re I touch with their god and bad sides of their souls, and they can express and create beauty through the darkness of the emotions they carry.
9. They are often on the search for purpose.
Everyone needs a purpose, and we all need to be reassured that what we’re doing is meaningful. We want to know we’re on the right path, and people suffering from hidden depression want this too. The thing is, they’re more susceptible to feelings of inadequacy and anxiety. They try to compensate for the shortcomings they think they possess. But this mood can often change, and they may even become incredibly devoted to the pursuit for happiness.
10. They will sometimes release subtle cries for help.
Even a person at peace with themselves can sometimes need help. We often overlook cries from people we don’t expect to ever feel weak. For people with depression, being alone may not be safe, despite what they might be claiming. Sometimes they ask for help and open up, and these moments are crucial because they hold enormous power. They possess the potential to build a bridge between two people with different states of emotion and mind. These are the moments that create closeness and trust between friends and lovers, and it’s not always easy, since one of the parties might feel the need to constantly camouflage their true selves.
11. They seek love and acceptance, just like everyone else.
People with hidden depression don’t hide their demons because they’re dishonest. They’re simply private and keep to themselves as a way of adapting and protecting their hearts. It’s also for the protection of the people around them. We live in a world which insists that we hide our dark sides and everything that’s unseemly, and this is why depression often goes by unnoticed. It’s important to know that those with hidden depression just need acceptance and understanding, and the only way to achieve this is to get it and spread it. We must always be true to ourselves, to be ready to accept help, and even more importantly, to be ready to reach out to those in need, even when it’s difficult.