Being a gifted child is an admirable trait, and yet these children have many issues in social and emotional progress. To have a better idea of how it is for your child, let us look at how your child’s behavior can get affected by their being gifted.
Asynchronous Development and its Problems
Social and Emotional development need not always accompany advanced intellectual development. When different skills develop at different paces, it is called as ‘asynchronous’. Gifted children can find it difficult if their other skills are not at par with their intelligence. For instance,
-It is possible for gifted children to understand different concepts, but not easy to grasp those concepts on an emotional level, causing them to have extreme fears and concerns about advanced life events such as sex, death, their future etc.
-The child may envision a project which is capable of being accomplished at an intellectual level, but they may fall short of it physically due to their bodies not having developed yet, which can cause them much frustration and upset. This can also be caused by them being perfectionists.
-They display two ends of a spectrum; whilst they are able to hold their own in an adult setting on topics such as world hunger or global warming, they may also cry that a sibling snatched their favorite toy. This can cause the adult in the situation to get confused, and cause them to not behave age-appropriately with the child.
For solutions for Asynchronous Development, refer here: https://www.verywell.com/asynchronous-development-1449172
Advanced Verbal and Reasoning Skills and its Problems
Gifted children are much advanced in literary skills and oratory skills, and even at reasoning with persons much older to them, but these skills are not always used correctly. For instance,
-Gifted children may argue with or try to manipulate others around them. Adults around these gifted children should understand that whilst their logic and arguments should be respected and given due credit, the child is still that – a child, and discipline should not be foregone despite them being cute or smart. Children, in fact, feel insecure when they successfully manipulate an adult.
-They also try to outsmart adults in authority, such as parents or teachers.
-They can get misunderstood by other children because of their humor being much advanced to their age, and their sophisticated language, making them feel not accepted and inferior. This is also why gifted children prefer the company of adults to children their own age.
For solutions for Resolving Argumentative Problems, refer here: https://www.verywell.com/how-not-to-argue-with-gifted-children-1449080
Perfectionism and Emotional Sensitivity
Having skills much advanced to those around them can lead to unreasonable expectations from adults. They may themselves become perfectionists and expect to get perfect scores on ever test, or have an over-active mind making up fancy stories. For instance,
-Being a perfectionist can lead to the fear of failing, which can lead the child to not even wanting to try a task, for the fear of failing in it.
-A wild imagination, careful observation and the ability to look beyond what seems apparent can cause the gifted child to seem shy and not participate in new tasks, as they ponder all its consequences.
-They may also sit down to understand all the details of questions asked before answering, or stepping forward to help, marking them as socially shy.
-If the child is very sensitive, they may not take nicely to criticism, general anger or a snub. Such slights which occur daily in childhood may affect them deeply.
-A well-developed understanding of what is right and what is not can cause gifted children to be very concerned about starving children, global warming, wars and other violence or social injustice occurring in the world. Overexposure to such images of topics can cause them to suffer from ‘existential depression’ or become introverted.
For solutions for Resolving Argumentative Problems, refer here: https://www.verywell.com/helping-gifted-children-cope-with-intense-emotions-1449350
Almost all the traits of being gifted can backfire and make the child feel ‘different’, at even a very young age. It’s essential to thus get them involved with other children their age and persons who would be there for them.