Your childhood has a significant impact on your personality, even through adulthood. The emotional experiences you go through as a child are the basis you build your attitude on, and the starting point for the idea of yourself.
Someone who’s gone through emotional abuse as a child will act differently than a person who hasn’t experienced it. The damage may be so great, that a person remains unable to maintain healthy, meaningful relationships with other people.
It’s natural to suppress certain traumatic memories, and you may not even be aware that you’re subject to certain traits and behaviors.Regardless, people who’ve gone through emotional abuse in childhood are likely to experience some of the following symptoms:
Bottling up anger
People with emotional abuse in their past, often don’t know how to handle intense feelings, like those of anger or sadness. They can’t resolve and manage such emotions in a healthy way, so they suppress them to a point at which they inevitably overflow.
Not standing up for yourself
People who have been emotionally abused as children, possess a lack of confidence, and find it difficult to stand up for themselves, even in adulthood. They’re afraid to assert themselves, and avoid conflict at all costs.
Being a people-pleaser
If you’ve grown up in fear of displeasing someone or making them angry, you’ll probably grow up going out of your way to please everyone, even if it means sacrificing your comfort for other people’s benefit.
Anxiety or depression
Bottling up emotions leads to feelings of anxiety and even depression, without the sufferer even realizing the source of such distress.
Being overly shy
Those who have gone through emotional abuse are used to suppressing their voice so as not to displease authority, so they often grow up finding it difficult to reach out to others, to create contact and form new relationships.
Emotionally abused people will tend to constantly find fault in themselves, and will always be afraid of making mistakes, even when they aren’t in the wrong. This might also stop them from taking risks and aspiring to achieve what they actually want.
Such people often make use of the language an abuser uses against them. Even when they walk out of your life, you continue the criticism exactly where they left off.
If you’ve been going through abuse for a longer time, you’re going to need to be constantly reassured that you’re doing things tight. Your own validation isn’t enough, because you feel as though nothing you do ever is, so you rely on the validation of others.